Toby Stein: In Memoriam

Editor’s Note: Rabbi Greenstein emailed these remarks to Rabbi Julie, who read them at Toby’s funeral on Sunday, February 4. 

This past Shabbat our Torah portion, Yitro, tells, among other things, of the advice that Yitro, Moses’ wise and big-hearted father-in-law, offers to Moses. He tells him to find special people who will be able to support Moses in guiding the community. Yitro says: “You should look out, from among the entire people, people of valor, who revere the Almighty, people of truth, who shun selling out.” (Ex. 18:21) Continue reading

The Three Weeks

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The period in the Jewish calendar between the 17th day of Tammuz and the 9th of Av is called “The Three Weeks” or “Between the Straits – Beyn ha-m’tzarim.”

This is the period between two days of catastrophe in Jewish history. Among other incidents, the main tragedies were those related to the destruction of the Temples of old. The Roman siege of Jerusalem in 70 CE finally succeeded in breaking through the walls on the 17th of Tammuz. That day was declared a fast day. Continue reading

Yom Kippur Sermon, 5776

Here we are, at the last 8 hours or so of this Ten Day voyage, the Ten Days of Teshuvah. I have suggested that we look at these days, commonly called the Ten Days of Repentance, as the Ten Days of Answering. The word “teshuvah” has many meanings, including ‘repentance’ and ‘return.’ It also means ‘answer’ or ‘response’ and ‘the act of answering and responding.’

In these ten days we are called upon to recognize that we must offer better answers to some fundamental questions, questions that we have heard since the beginning of time.

On Rosh Ha-Shanah and last night I set forth a number of those original questions as presented by the Torah’s first accounting of human life. These are, therefore, to be understood as questions that first came up at the dawn of our consciousness as human beings. And the questions can be understood as following one from the former, and as building in complexity and urgency.

Our Torah places us in the Garden of Eden as our starting point. The first question we had to answer, as we stood in the middle of that paradise, was: “Can’t we have it all?” And we tried to take everything we could see, including the fruit from the Tree, and we discovered, to our pain and shame, that we had given the wrong answer.

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Kol Nidre Sermon, 5776

Tonight begins the tenth and last day of the Ten Days of Teshuvah – the Ten Days of Answering. On Rosh Ha-Shanah I suggested that we consider the Torah’s first questions asked by and of human beings as the questions to which, on these days, we are called to give our answers.

And we saw that the Torah mentioned 2 questions first asked back in the Garden of Eden. The first was a question we asked ourselves – “Can’t we have it all?” and the second question was asked of us by God – “Where are you?”

Our answer to the first question was a defiant – “Yes, of course we can have it all.” And we ate from the fruit of the forbidden tree. Right then and there we supposedly learned that we had given the wrong answer. But it is unclear whether we really have accepted for ourselves the right answer. Nor have we done such a great job in understanding what the right answer is supposed to lead us toward, beyond avoidance of prohibited fruit from a certain tree in a mythical paradise.

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Rosh Ha-Shanah Sermon, 5776

Shanah Tovah U-m’tiqah! A Sweet, Good Year to all!

They say that when Gertrude Stein, the literary experimenter and self-hating Jew, was close to death, almost her last words were: “What’s the answer?”

This is something many of us wonder about, especially when we are confronted with our mortality. Rosh Ha-Shanah is such a time. The beginning of a new year makes us acutely conscious of time’s passing. Many of us hope that our religious tradition can give us the answer, or, at least, an answer. We seek answers to settle our minds and calm our spirits. Questions can engender feelings of dis-ease. But answers promise us a sense of wholeness. So we hope to start the New Year refreshed, restored, and reassured with an answer.

And, indeed, Rosh Ha-Shanah kicks off a period of ten days that are called in our tradition – Aseret Y’mei Teshuvah – often translated as the “Ten Days of Repentance,” but more literally meaning the “Ten Days of an Answer.” How great it would be to get those answers between now and Yom Kippur!

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Selling Hametz

breads_2If possible, all hametz – food not acceptable during Pesah (Passover), or materials containing such unacceptable food – should be destroyed or given away before the holiday begins.

Should this be impossible, the hametz may be stored in such a way that we are sure not to use it during the holiday and its actual ownership, and the ownership of the space in which it is stored, is transferred to a non-Jew until the holiday ends.

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Kol Nidre Sermon, 5775

5775 – The Year of Letting Go – Kol Nidrei Rabbi David Greenstein

The South Sea island of Borneo is a natural treasure. Its rain forest, one of the oldest in the world, is the home of myriads of different kinds of living creatures. Interest in these species has led to developing creative ways to capture them, so that they can be studied or shipped to zoos in many countries for our edification. And, of course this must be done without damaging them. For instance, there is a market for Borneo monkeys. But how do you catch these agile and clever critters?

This is how: The trap is a simple one – a large coconut. A small hole is opened in the coconut, just big enough for the monkey to squeeze its hand into. The coconut is hollowed out and goodies – bananas or peanuts – are inserted. The coconut is then fastened to a tree or anchor. When the monkey comes by and discovers the delicious treat inside the coconut, it slips its hand inside and grasps the food.

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Rosh Ha-Shanah Sermon, 5775

The `Aqedah – Rosh Ha-Shanah 5775 – 2014 Rabbi David Greenstein

Gut Yontif! Shanah Tovah!

In keeping with honored tradition, I had hoped to start this talk with a joke. But, since I want to talk a little about the `Aqedah – the Binding of Isaac, perhaps the most difficult story in all the Torah, I was not able to find a good joke that would lead into it. But then I thought, wait, Isaac’s name literally means “he will laugh.” So there is apparently some humor embedded in this stark tale, after all. Perhaps we will find it – – and perhaps not.

This most difficult story forms the core of our Rosh Ha-Shanah service. Unlike our practice when we celebrate the two days of other holidays, when we read a discrete Torah reading for each day, the Torah readings for these two days constitute a continuous reading, from one day to the next, of the expanded story of Abraham and Sarah, Hagar, Ishmael and Isaac. Oh, and did I mention – God?

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Yom Kippur Sermon, 5774

Shabbat Shalom! Gut Yontiff!

So, while we’re on the subject of Yom Kippur – let me ask you a question:

If you could do it, would you take some kind of steroids to help you become a better person?

Do you think it should be legal to take them if they could be made available?

You don’t have to answer immediately. Think about it for a minute.

Okay. Whatever your thoughts about taking these steroids to become a better person – would you take them if they could improve your professional life?

What about your social life? Your mind?
Your looks?

(Notice that I have not asked whether you have actually already taken such steroid-type supplements.)

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Kol Nidrei Sermon, 5774

On this solemn night we began our final advance toward atonement and spiritual cleansing with the haunting strains of Kol Nidrei. The melody pulls at the strings of our hearts. Its power seems to come from a place beyond words.

Perhaps this is fitting. What, after all, are the words of the Kol Nidrei prayer? “Kol nidrei – Let all vows that we may utter this year be void and cancelled.” We intone this text three times so as to officially cancel any obligations that we will undertake through oaths, vows, promises or imprecations. The superficial reading of this prayer has elicited puzzlement or even scorn. Is that really the most important prayer of the Jewish people?

The short answer is “No.” There are other prayers, meant to be recited daily, and not just once a year, that are far more important and sacred. But, of course, context makes a big difference. Giving this prayer the spotlight at the onset of Yom Kippur surely enhances its aura. Yet this simply begs the question. Why should this text merit its headline status? There must be something more to it.

The answer is that, in its way, Kol Nidrei points to a fundamental factor of our existence as humans. It is a mournful, yet clear-sighted declaration about the futility of trusting in words. We make oaths and promises. We say that we believe in this or that value. We declare that our word is our bond. If we have children or we teach others or in our conversations about matters large and small, we stand for truth. We are insulted if we are not trusted. And then we compromise and make excuses, find loopholes or claim fatigue, or we conveniently forget or look the other way. When Kol Nidrei comes around, we can no longer hide. We are warning our Creator and ourselves that our words cannot be trusted. As we hold up our most precious gift of speech before God, we offer a prayer of nullification, cancellation and utter regret. “Kulhon, iharatna b’hon – I regret them all.”

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